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Two Negatives Must Always Make a Positive! Learned life experiences move us forward rather than back. And even I know now, that it is better to move forward. As you grow forward, you become a more rounded individual and as that happens, even with ups and downs, good events begin to happen. It’s the things you learn as you move forward that help shape your future for good. Since I’ve experienced the move from negative to positive, I can share some tips that help make the change possible. The first step is to recognize that you are not moving forward. If you’ve found your goals unattainable and you’ve given into accepting that as your life situation, you need to think again. It ‘taint necessarily so. You may have to reposition your goals for a time, or make new goals, but change is a positive move. The second step is to identify the problem. This may take some honest digging. Where has the hope been lost? What caused the derailment? The third step is to come to terms with the problem. Identifying the steps needed to make the necessary changes again calls for an honest assessment. The fourth step is to realize that you have learned something in the process that not only helps you now, but will be a constant asset to you in handling your future. You have given yourself a life skill in self management. The fifth step is to accept this growth and move through the door you have opened into a new life. This is where you realize you have taken the stress and tension out of past problems and you can enjoy life in a new way. All of this poses an interesting question. What if the negative events hadn’t happened? What if I’d married the girl? What if I had gotten the sale? What if I had gotten that house? What if I’d shot the moon and bought that car? Thinking through my life, I have come to think that things happen for a reason. At the time, I thought each situation such a negative. Like the girl thing. I’ve dated many girls. Always I was the white knight, saving the girl. I was giving out lots of love and getting nothing in return. Then one day, out shopping, you run into one of these old girl friends. She is now married and seems much the same while you have grown to become a more balanced, self-loving person. The person who broke your heart that many years ago has stayed the same person while you have grown into a person with better balance and perspective. And it wouldn’t have happened without the initial negative happening. And, it happens in sales. Some times you can do all the right things in presenting your goods or service, and for some reason, you do not get the sale. Then, a few months later, you learn that if you had made the sale that day, you would have lost money, time, and had a really bad day. When it comes to making a really big purchase, a car or a house, you are really discouraged when the deal doesn’t go through. Turns out, had you gotten your desire fulfilled, you would have had to spend much more than you thought you would. It would have been an expense that followed you for a long time. When a purchasing deal is not turning out, it may be in your best interest to let it go. It is one of the best ways to turn a negative into a positive. These small negatives turn into a positive; a positive that you would not have experienced if they had not been part of your life. If they had come true, you might have experienced a still bigger negative in expense and concern. It may be a good thing that you did not marry that person, get that sale, or buy that car or house. One can not escape everything. If a you experience a truly negative circumstance, find a way to release it to what I call the universe. When something affects you personally, wrecks your day or your week, why would you want to hold on to it? There are so many things that can affect you negatively: not getting the date, not getting the sale, not getting the house you want, not getting the job you wanted, problems at work, waiting for ages in line in a store, losing the big game. When things of this nature struck me, I would carry it around inside me for days and sometimes weeks. I wasn’t enjoying life at all. I was half way through my Complementary Health TV Series, when I figured out how to release these tensions. It took me a long time to learn to come to terms with the negative, do my best at considering how to manage the negative, and then saying good-bye to it. I’m a happier person for developing this process. Reducing the stress and tension have led to a more balanced and fulfilling life. The sixth, and last step is very, very important. It is to enjoy your new life and the opportunities it presents. Among the opportunities that came my way were an increase in the number of people coming to my web site, producing a better TV series, and, you guessed it, dating the right girls. Experiencing your new life to the fullest means being in the moment. Our days bring us these special moments, and we must not let others keep us from experiencing them fully. My first step in realizing this was when my picture appeared in our local paper. I wanted to share the experience with friends at a party and my date stepped in to squelch the moment with her drama queen specialty. I didn’t let my moment be stolen from me and later that night, I broke up with her. It may be a small instance, but it was a major step forward for me. Relishing life’s moments of success and joy must be a part of your positive life. I finished my 41st TV show with testimonials from my guests. I came home, reviewed the tape, and then sat back to enjoy what I had done. Then I started my next series. Enjoying your good moments is essential to keeping the positive in your life. Planning your day and your work are necessary to be successful, but it should not exclude the special moments along the way. Recognize them and hang on to them. Once I recognized what I was missing out on, my life started turning toward the better. Being in the moment means you are not missing out on life…and, that’s a very positive thing.
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